Being a teenager is difficult under the most optimal of circumstances. If home and/or community is invested in rigid conformity then there is no safe place for a teenager to ask questions or express ideas. Studies indicate that lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) and questioning teens are up to 4 times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers. And those teens who are rejected by their family are up to 9 times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers.
It hurts no one to listen to a teen; you might not like what you hear but no one dies of listening. Part of truly listening is bearing the burden of maintaining an open heart. Truly listening is not about imposing your will. Truly listening takes love. Truly listening involves some form of physical touch; if your teen has just unburdened herself or himself to you, a hug from you will soothe their frayed nerves and feed their heart.
If you are the parent of a teen who is wondering if they are gay, remember that the thought of losing your love may be more than your teen can bear.