Sex… Sex… Sex… Sex… Sex…
Uh-oh… I’ve said the forbidden word in this reality. Are you aware of how many people freeze up when they hear the word “sex”, or whisper it and try to keep it hush hush because it’s “dirty” to talk about it in front of others? I mean, come on… we all know sex occurs in the bedroom and it should stay there, right?? NOT!
I’m going to debunk a lot of those points of views you may have bought into and either resist and react to or align and agree with, which either way, become true for you and limit you!
Most people think that if they’re having sex, and a lot of it, they’re receiving… and if they’re not having sex, well then something must be wrong with them and they’re not receiving. Sex is one of the few forms of receiving here on planet earth. And really, every time I’ve said the word “sex”, it doesn’t even mean what I’m referring to because everything regarding sex is lumped together in one big pile of debri!
So first, 6 definitions to create clarity around the word “sex”:
1. Sensuality – being touched, held, caressed, nurtured, etc. (Bodies LOVE this!)
2. Sex – when you’re looking good, feeling good, walking tall, and strutting your stuff. (It’s when people admire your body.)
3. Copulation – coitus; putting body parts together (What we call sex in this reality.)
4. Sexuality – a defining point of view based on judgement about your sexual preference in order to create a personality (i.e. heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, trisexual)
5. Sexualness – the nurturing, expansive, caring, healing, creative, generative, sexual energy found in all things; no judgement; the orgasmic quality of life (the energy you perceive when in nature…. that sense of peace and joy where you feel connected to everything and separate from nothing.)
6. Orgasm – the energy for the creation of life and the creation of your body (the energy of total sensation… perceiving every molecule of a piece of food and enjoying every second of the present moment.)
With that said, what part of your life may not be showing up the way you’d like it to because you were not aware of the meanings of the words you’re using?
Anywhere where you’re doing judgement in your life of any of the above 6 words, you’re cutting off your awareness of the the choices that are available to you, what is rewarding, and what is truly possible regarding “sex”. Did you know that in many lifetimes just being seen naked was considered pornography? What judgements do you have of porn that are controlling you and your body whenever you’re naked or close to being naked?
When you’re out in nature, are the plants and animals willing to have sexualness with you? That’d be a YES! And how healing is that? For me – tremendously healing! choices that are available to you, what is rewarding, and what is truly possible regarding “sex”. Did you know that in many lifetimes just being seen naked was considered pornography? What judgements do you have of porn that are controlling you and your body whenever you’re naked or close to being naked?
What does having sexualness with everyone look like? What this looks like for me may be completely different for you! For one, it doesn’t mean you have to copulate with everyone. What it does mean though is that your body embodies the sexual, healing, generative energy in totality and is completely turned on and overflowing with orgasmical energy.
Speaking of being turned on – who ever said we had to turn our bodies off when we get into relationship or marriage, at work, around our family, around children, etc? How much is that diminishing and divorcing you as a being and cutting off a potent energy that is required to enjoy this physical embodied experience? What if being turned on is just allowing that sexual energy that is available to us ALL the time to be there? Who says you have to be turned on to copulate??
How many of you have received a massage or bodywork from a therapist who embodies sexual energy in totality and judges nothing? I’ve received massages where the therapist follows strict rules in covering up certain “parts of the body” because they are “private” and should never be seen… or if a female is giving a female a massage, she cannot embody sexual energy because that may appear too “lesbian-like”, or vice versa for males, or the opposite sex is even better – watch out for that sexual harassment that may occur during a massage! How much form, structure, significance, and rules are limiting the capacity of the expansiveness of this session for your body?
Gifting and receiving sexual energy from people does not mean you actually have to copulate with them. Sexualness is the ultimate capacity to receive from all things at all times (omnisexualness).
What if by having the pure flow of sexualness you become the catalyst for change in this world just by showing up? What would it take for YOU to acknowledge how crucial you and your sexualness are to the possibilities of this world?
Side Note: Sexualness is a being, not a doing. It does not mean to totally cut off your awareness when choosing to have sex…. It actually allows you to have more awareness about where people are functioning from.
Excerpt from Access Class: When you go in the deep forest, does it judge you? If your copulation feels like you are in the deep woods, where you are nurtured, cared for, embraced, healed, it’s expansive, and it’s a sense of space, not confinement, you are in the area where copulation can be amazing and fun. The forest doesn’t try to hold you there, nor does it call you in the morning to find out how you feel. The forest embraces you, it enjoys you, it allows you to enjoy it, it nurtures you, it cares for you, it encompasses you, and it has no judgment of you. If you would have your copulation from that, every sexual experience would be extraordinary. That’s the place you want to have sex from. In that, are you in the computation? Yes, because you know exactly where you are in the forest, or you know when you are lost. At least you know you always have a compass or where you parked your car. The problem is, you go to bed with somebody and you forget that you have a car to get away in. A lot of times, you should be getting in that car and getting away.
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